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Aloha, I’m avery.

My faves call me Aves. I am a writer, wellness coach, fitness professional, and island adventurer currently calling Oahu home.

On these pages we get real about life — we talk all things mental, physical, and spiritual health, wellness tips, and excerpts from my very own journals. Grab your coffee, some wine, and stay a while.

From Daydream to Reality: 4 Ways to Create Your Dream Life

From Daydream to Reality: 4 Ways to Create Your Dream Life

I am an exceptional dreamer. My imagination, I tell you, is the stuff of fables. There are moments I am so lost in my head living a day not yet happened here on earth I miss my exit in its entirety, arriving at my destination more than a few minutes late. I trail off at the end of sentences. I’ll stare at the sunset long after it has passed under the horizon.

Dreaming is important. Allowing ourselves to see a greater vision of what our life can be gives us hope. It is necessary.

But unless dreaming is actually driving you to action, and you are actually taking said action and making moves and following through, what is the point? Are you wasting your life sitting in a pretty daydream? By hiding from a nightmare or staying stagnant in your current reality?

Are you wasting your life sitting in a pretty daydream?

If it was easy to take action, we may all be in different places than we are now. It is far too easy to hunker down in complacency because the relationship is comfy and familiar, the paycheck is steady, our body is okay.

It is also easy to let the overwhelm of too many dreams take over. We think we have to limit ourselves to one, or tackling one at a time, which in a way sometimes is true but I don’t think it always has to be. So suddenly we are stuck, unable to move forward on any at all.

We have heard our greatest journey begins with a single step. Below I have not one but four potential steps you can take today, right here, right now to get your booty movin’ down the road to your best reality yet.

WRITE DOWN A VISION OF YOUR LIFE IN AFFIRMATIONS.

I learned this step from Rachel Hollis in her new, MUST-READ book Girl Stop Apologizing. I took to my whiteboard and scribbled out 10 affirmations for my future in the present tense. These include visions of my career, relationships, and general life-state such as: I am debt-free. I have a golden retriever or German shepherd. I have a house walking distance to the beach and to a coffee shop. I have a fun and exceptional, not just loving, marriage. I am a motivational speaker and conference host. Yeah, get big here.

Prop that whiteboard up where you’re going to see it. Stick Post-It notes to the mirror. Write it out over and over again in your journal. Let yourself be reminded of the big picture when you’re feeling bogged down in the details. Truly feel it, and get excited for the goodness to come!

RECRUIT YOUR CHEERLEADERS.

Having a team on your side is as necessary as air, food, and water. My friends, we are created to live in community. So instead of attempting to raise your dream in a vacuum or protect your ideas with secrecy and solitary confinement, pick a couple of your true blues and communicate your vision.

Talk your idea out with a mentor, trusted family member, or friend. Let them help refine it. Process their feedback. And when they speak tough truths to you or actually hold you accountable by telling you exactly when you’re letting yourself down, listen without defensiveness.

The best part? When you start kicking those goals in the face, celebrate with them!

ALLOW FOR GENTLE REDIRECTION.

Somewhere along your journey your path is going to change course. There are a million and one little tiny details at work, and we are never guaranteed what is to come after this very moment.

Don’t be so stuck in your initial goals and vision that you may fall short of the greatness you are created for.

When God closes the door, stop knocking. He’ll give you another door, or crack a window, or open that one again when the timing is right. If a new vision begins to take shape, trust it. Don’t be so stuck in your initial goals and vision that you may fall short of the greatness you are created for.

TRUST THERE IS SOMETHING GREATER.

I know it is easy to say, but after experiencing this sentiment in both big and small ways the past few months, I know it to be true. Knowing opportunities beyond our wildest expectations exist on the other side of this painful moment may not dull the heartache or sting of rejection instantly, but it can reignite your hope and excitement for what is to come. Take heart!

Knowing opportunities beyond our wildest expectations exist on the other side of this painful moment may not dull the heartache or sting of rejection instantly, but it can reignite your hope and excitement for what is to come.

I believe the dreams sitting on our hearts, stirring around in our minds and keeping us awake are gentle nudges from the Lord. They are our mission. When we embark on our mission, when we maximize our gifts and talents, that is when the world begins to change. The quality of others’ lives may be at stake if you don’t get moving on what you are created to do.

Go on, take the step. You have everything you need to simply begin.

From My Journal: Lessons in Heartbreak, Part I

You're Made for Your Mountain: A Story of Healing

You're Made for Your Mountain: A Story of Healing