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Aloha, I’m avery.

My faves call me Aves. I am a writer, wellness coach, fitness professional, and island adventurer currently calling Oahu home.

On these pages we get real about life — we talk all things mental, physical, and spiritual health, wellness tips, and excerpts from my very own journals. Grab your coffee, some wine, and stay a while.

5 Steps to Stop Indecisiveness from Trapping Us in Place

5 Steps to Stop Indecisiveness from Trapping Us in Place

Indecisiveness is paralyzing.

Whether it is selecting your dinner from the menu, a nail polish color, or a new apartment to call home, the simple art of just making the dang choice can be enough to trap us in place.

Decisions become progressively more difficult when each option comes with subsequent make-it-happen steps: Moving? You’ll need to store or sell furniture, or maybe find a subletter. Want a new job? Then you have to decide where you want to be and go, and take a risk with a new position.

There are many difficult conversations and plain work around the bigger choices we have to make in life. Thankfully, decision-making doesn’t have to be a difficult listing of the pros and cons. My mother offered me up some of the most simple advice around: just begin down a path, and the rest will follow.

That’s it. That is all it takes. Just begin.

While I can’t say all the choices I needed to make in this difficult transition time—moving, deciding to pursue one relationship, accepting another part-time job—have me fully satisfied (I mean, are we ever?), I can confidently say that the simple act of taking baby step after baby step has lead me to a much happier and more peaceful place, and I can continue to grow in this game they call adulthood.

Going through your own season of transition?

No matter how big or how small, here are five surefire ways to keep yourself moving along the path without wasting time stuck in pro-con purgatory:

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What to Do When Anxiety Hits

What to Do When Anxiety Hits

I've Never Stayed In Contact With An Ex — But Here's Why This Time I'll Try